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ur opinion Posts: 5
Hi I had to go anon for this as i have some family members who use this site. And i really dont want them knowing our business. Anyhow im beginning to think my husband is cheating on me. Were not married long but we have a good relationship. He has a previous history of cheating in past relationships but im no angel either. There are a couple of reason i believe he has cheated and id appreciated your honest opinions. First a few weeks ago we were in the car and i picked up his phone (mine was dead) and asked him could i play one of the games on his phone. He said yea - and as i was flicking through it i noticed it had added an internet application to his phone to check his mails. I turned to him and said ''i didnt know you added this'' he got all awkward - went beetroot red and said shuffling around in the seat. I said to him why are you acting strange and getting all embarased and he said its just the way you asked me. Anyhow i thought it strange but let it go. About ten days later we had been away for the weekend as it was his bday and when we came home he went into the kitchen. As i was coming into the house i picked up the post and followed him into the kitchen. He was standing there with a small package in his hand. So i said ''whats that'' and he said is it not from you.. Again he was acting strange and shifty he was gone all red and hadnt even opened it. I said - its hardly from me why would i post you something to our house. Open it and see if it says who its from. Anyhow we opened it and it was a book, with no card or anything on it. So now im standing looking at him going who sent you a book for your birthday with no card. ??? After a slightly heated debate i asked him to tell me honestly who he thought it was from and he said maybe one of his ex's cos they knew it was his bday.. Now i was like WTF.. why would they send you a present, not sign it, and to our home. How would they know our address. I noticed the post mark was from a county where his friend lived and mentioned that. So he text his friend and told me later that his mate text him back and said the book was from him?? I let it go.. Now to this morning, so were in bed before getting up for work. And considering im actually heavily pregnant we havent DTD in about 3 mths. So i thought maybe id give him a helping hand so to speak :-8 anyhow sorry for the graphics but when job was finished i said ''we havent DTD in 3mths and you said you havent had a W**k since last week so why is there very little sperm'' TMI sorry girls for the info but this is what happened. And his answer after going bright red - is that he had a w**k in the car yesterday morning on the way to work. :eek :eek Now i dont know which i find more disturbing that hes driving along to work having a w**k or that my gut tells me this is rubbish. My only other explanation is that he is cheating on me. My gut is telling me hes lying to me, but am i paranoid cos i know hes not getting any at home? Sorry this is so long, thanks for reading and id really appreciate your honest opinions.
islandfun Posts: 3054
There's no option for 'Are you out of your f*cking mind??' You're using the amount of swimmers as an indicator if he's cheating or not? Token's nose picking poll has more merit than this.
happybridefor06 Posts: 305
[quote="islandfun"]There's no option for 'Are you out of your f*cking mind??' quote] :o0 :o0 :o0 :o0 :o0 :o0 :o0 :o0 :o0 :o0 :o0 :o0 :o0 :o0 :o0
Milly83 Posts: 3620
Never mind the sperm thing. The thing that would get it for me is the way he is getting all embarrassed about the questions you are asking. You have to talk to him and ask him about it.
MrsJayKay Posts: 3025
What a load of horse shit! :o0 :o0 :o0 :o0 :o0 [img:njbsgs7m][/img:njbsgs7m] [img:njbsgs7m][/img:njbsgs7m] This is great entertainment. Keep it coming [img:njbsgs7m][/img:njbsgs7m] [img:njbsgs7m][/img:njbsgs7m]
Milly83 Posts: 3620
[quote="MrsJayKay":2chxzic6]What a load of horse shit! :o0 :o0 :o0 :o0 :o0 [img:2chxzic6][/img:2chxzic6] [img:2chxzic6][/img:2chxzic6] This is great entertainment. Keep it coming [img:2chxzic6][/img:2chxzic6] [img:2chxzic6][/img:2chxzic6][/quote:2chxzic6] Why do you think that this is rubbish?
MrsJayKay Posts: 3025
[quote="GoldenBride":1qlsywwr][quote="MrsJayKay":1qlsywwr]What a load of horse shit! :o0 :o0 :o0 :o0 :o0 [img:1qlsywwr][/img:1qlsywwr] [img:1qlsywwr][/img:1qlsywwr] This is great entertainment. Keep it coming [img:1qlsywwr][/img:1qlsywwr] [img:1qlsywwr][/img:1qlsywwr][/quote:1qlsywwr] Why do you think that this is rubbish?[/quote:1qlsywwr] Ah come on! Why do you think it's not??? Read it again, especially the bit about the quantity of sperm :o0 [img:1qlsywwr][/img:1qlsywwr] Merciful hour. Should there be an explosion of the stuff if they haven't DTD in a while???
Psycho Sue Posts: 1875
Islandfun - There is no need to be so harsh.... the girl is mearly asking for peoples opinion, so if all you can do is insult someone, I suggest you don't reply to the post instead. Ur opinion - I do think that the grounds for your concern are a littlle inconclusive, but I would have to say as a girl how has gone threw crap in the past, I think in your heart of hearts you kinda know that somehing is not right. You may also be feeling insecure about not having DTD for a while, so you may be a little aprehensive. Personally - you need to talk to your hubby, without histerics, and maybe mention the fact that he was acting weird on a couple of occasions lately nad is there something that is on his mind. Give him every opportunity to come clean (if there is anything to come clean about).... Don't jump to he worst conclusion (although this can be tough sometimes), without any other kinda evidence. I hope everything works out ok for you, and wish you all the luck in the future with the bambino.... Sue :wv
islandfun Posts: 3054
[quote="Psycho Sue":1h1zvsky]Islandfun - [b:1h1zvsky]There is no need to be so harsh.... the girl is mearly asking for peoples opinion, so if all you can do is insult someone, I suggest you don't reply to the post instead.[/b:1h1zvsky] [/quote:1h1zvsky] Sue :wv She asked for honest opinions..that was my honest opinion. I was merely following instructions.
Miah Posts: 2738
I don't know if he's cheating or not. I'm more concerned about the fact that you were able to say to him "you haven't had a w*nk since last week" - don't get me wrong, I'm all for sharing but do you have, like, a book you sign whenever either one of you gives yourself a treat? Did you ever think that perhaps he's getting uncomfortable because you're firing questions at him? Myabe it's just the way your post is written but it seems like you're pulling him up (pardon the pun) on every little thing. Any man would turn red and shuffle about in his seat if the Spanish Inquisition was on top of him! The phone thing for example - so what if he's downloaded an application to check his emails!!
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