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niffy Posts: 69
Is anybody in the same boat as me as in thinking 'WTH are people doing in rel'ships and questioning one another about the intricities of w*nking!!!!' feckin hell - i don't really think it added greatly to your post, i.e. it wasn't a great addition to the list of evidence......hormonal or not, in my eyes that's something you don't really get into - it falls into the same category as porn - like 'just don't even go there' there are certain topics where 'ignorance is bliss' applies and i think this is one of them - let him off to do his w*nking etc....it's like the picking your nose thing - when you took your vows at the alter & vowed to share your lives, i don't think any of those issues were being referred to. i know i haven't really answered your question directly but i think getting into the nitty gritty of the situation is part of the problem - stop over-analysing things and take a deep breath....and chill. you need stronger facts than low sperm measures i would think. and just for good measure :wv :wv :wv
scotswedding Posts: 2829
[quote="niffy":1tolnzep]Is anybody in the same boat as me as in thinking 'WTH are people doing in rel'ships and questioning one another about the intricities of w*nking!!!!' Flip hell - i don't really think it added greatly to your post, i.e. it wasn't a great addition to the list of evidence......hormonal or not, in my eyes that's something you don't really get into - it falls into the same category as porn - like 'just don't even go there' there are certain topics where 'ignorance is bliss' applies and i think this is one of them - let him off to do his w*nking etc....it's like the picking your nose thing - when you took your vows at the alter & vowed to share your lives, i don't think any of those issues were being referred to. i know i haven't really answered your question directly but i think getting into the nitty gritty of the situation is part of the problem - stop over-analysing things and take a deep breath....and chill. you need stronger facts than low sperm measures i would think. [/quote:1tolnzep] I wouldn't think WTH at all TBH. Some people want to turn a blind eye to things like masturbation and porn but think it's a perfectly normal and good thing to be open about it in a relationship. My OH and I have no issues discussing these things. It's each to one's own of course if you don't want to though. Also as regards the 'measures'- we DTD the deed every day so I would notice if we've been apart for a few days that there's definately more there. I don't think it's an unusual thing to notice. I just think the OP got a bit paranoid about it. Do think the car thing is a bit weird though!
Psycho Sue Posts: 1875
scotsweddings: [quote:2uxmxydx] wouldn't think WTH at all TBH. Some people want to turn a blind eye to things like masturbation and porn but think it's a perfectly normal and good thing to be open about it in a relationship. My OH and I have no issues discussing these things. It's each to one's own of course if you don't want to though. Also as regards the 'measures'- we DTD the deed every day so I would notice if we've been apart for a few days that there's definately more there. I don't think it's an unusual thing to notice. I just think the OP got a bit paranoid about it. Do think the car thing is a bit weird though![/quote:2uxmxydx] I agree with everything here. I would openly discuss these issues with my hubby and would also notice if there was less or more than usual!!! Sue
MrsJayKay Posts: 3025
[quote="Psycho Sue":26fndr1y]scotsweddings: [quote:26fndr1y] wouldn't think WTH at all TBH. Some people want to turn a blind eye to things like masturbation and porn but think it's a perfectly normal and good thing to be open about it in a relationship. My OH and I have no issues discussing these things. It's each to one's own of course if you don't want to though. Also as regards the 'measures'- we DTD the deed every day so I would notice if we've been apart for a few days that there's definately more there. I don't think it's an unusual thing to notice. I just think the OP got a bit paranoid about it. Do think the car thing is a bit weird though![/quote:26fndr1y] I agree with everything here. I would openly discuss these issues with my hubby and would also notice if there was less or more than usual!!! Sue[/quote:26fndr1y] Really? Do you? I'm not being smart or anything but I would NEVER question DH about when/where/how often he would masturbate. IMO there has to be [i:26fndr1y]some [/i:26fndr1y]privacy even in a relationship. I would think that that is a total invasion of privacy when a man can't even have a wank without his OH knowing.
scotswedding Posts: 2829
[quote="MrsJayKay":lslor7iz] Really? Do you? I'm not being smart or anything but I would NEVER question DH about when/where/how often he would masturbate. IMO there has to be [i:lslor7iz]some [/i:lslor7iz]privacy even in a relationship. I would think that that is a total invasion of privacy when a man can't even have a wank without his OH knowing.[/quote:lslor7iz] The thing is if it's something you're open about from the start then it's not weird or an invasion of privacy I think. To be honest though I wouldn't ask normally* but I tell and so does he. *I might ask if we were apart for a few days just in chit chat on the phone or talking about missing each other and stuff.
Milly83 Posts: 3620
We would talk to each other about everything. I don't think anything is omitted from our relationship! He knows everything about me and I know everything about him. We always tell each other everything. I couldn't imagine it any other way.
TokenMale Posts: 6845
[quote="GoldenBride":2ishyqrb]We would talk to each other about everything. I don't think anything is omitted from our relationship! He knows everything about me and I know everything about him. We always tell each other everything. I couldn't imagine it any other way.[/quote:2ishyqrb] That's as may be, but I'm sure he doesn't tell you the consistency of what's left on the toilet roll every time he wipes his arse. I think it would be an odd man indeed who told his missus every time he jerked off, without fail, whether it was something he was embarrassed about or not. Like, if it's not a big deal, why would you discuss it?
MrsJayKay Posts: 3025
[quote="GoldenBride":26dxi1yy]We would talk to each other about everything. I don't think anything is omitted from our relationship! He knows everything about me and I know everything about him. We always tell each other everything. I couldn't imagine it any other way.[/quote:26dxi1yy] Well I used to consider that myself and DH tell each other everything that is till I read this thread. I most definately don't go home and say "Hey, lover, I just had a bit of auld masturbation there today what about yourself?" And he doesn't come home from a trip saying "Jaysus I had a great auld wank there the other day" WAAAAYYYYYY To much information. I, personally, don't want to know! What do you do with that information? "Oh that's great honey, so I take it we're not having sex tonight so seeing as how you've pleased yourself again today???" Sorry I don't mean to take the piss but it is just REALLY strange to me and I'd imagine a lot of other people.
Milly83 Posts: 3620
Like scotswedding, he would tell me if he did and I would tell him if I did. With regards the wiping the ass thing, ew!! I don't want to know anything about that. Yuck!!
Milly83 Posts: 3620
[quote="MrsJayKay":3cky2qbe][quote="GoldenBride":3cky2qbe]We would talk to each other about everything. I don't think anything is omitted from our relationship! He knows everything about me and I know everything about him. We always tell each other everything. I couldn't imagine it any other way.[/quote:3cky2qbe] Well I used to consider that myself and DH tell each other everything that is till I read this thread. I most definately don't go home and say "Hey, lover, I just had a bit of auld masturbation there today what about yourself?" And he doesn't come home from a trip saying "Jaysus I had a great auld wank there the other day" WAAAAYYYYYY To much information. I, personally, don't want to know! What do you do with that information? "Oh that's great honey, so I take it we're not having sex tonight so seeing as how you've pleased yourself again today???" Sorry I don't mean to take the piss but it is just REALLY strange to me and I'd imagine a lot of other people.[/quote:3cky2qbe] We don't talk about it like that. It's more tongue in cheek kinda thing. I don't see H2B for long periods of time and we talk about sex over the phone sometimes and it might pop in as a joke. It's just not a big deal. I definately don't think it's strange at all.