I know how you feel about having a friend amongst the bridal party. To me my bridesmaids will be the people that mean the most to me and 2 of them dont include family/sisters, I know lots of people that didnt ask sisters etc they had there friends. One girl had 4 sisters and was only having one b'maid so rather that having to choose 1 out of her 4 sisters she just had her best friend - the sisters all did something - singing in church, a reading etc and they were absolutly fine about it, so I dont think its set in stone that you HAVE to have your family. My brother was pratically forced to have all my brothers as best man/groomsmen and I know he regrets not having one particular friend. But at the same time I wouldnt worry about it if you dont have a particular friend that you want to ask - dont have someone just for the sake of it! And you dont have to explain anything to anyone!
If you don't have an obvious friend who stands out above the others then I wouldn't spend another minute worrying about it. Have your 2 sisters, your sister-in-law-to-be (if you want her), and your cousin. That's 4 bridesmaids which is loads!
[quote="Ehappy3":jeev80t7]Yes, I have no problem with my sisters and cousin, its just i would like to have a friend and dont most people have friends as bridsmades as well as family??[/quote:jeev80t7]
of course you don't! you can have what you want! (and what you can afford - dresses and shoes and tan and hairstyles and accomodation etc for 4 Bmaids will be quite expensive!)
Hope I don't shock anyone here but I didn't have a bridesmaid!!! Yes it was just me, had my dear cousin who is the closest I have to a sister as my unofficial maid of honour (for handing bouquet to, signing register etc) but that was it, I was fine with it, most of my bezzy mates are in the UK and they have kids it wouldn't have been practical for them to be bridesmaids, hubby has 2 sisters but one has a baby and the other one was a bridesmaid for the sister and I know she didn't enjoy it (she's v quiet and shy) so I just left it, I didn't even care it was all attention on me anyways!! So don't sweat it you don't 'have to' do anything just because tradition dictates.
Sorry I also meant to say you can involve friends in other ways like readings and prayers of the faithful (if you are getting married in church), I did this plus had a friend taking pics and another taking some video clips (in an unofficial capacity, they wanted to do it!)
Thank you all so much, I feel so much better now!! I think i might just stick with the 4..Best of luck to yee all and Im sure ill be back with more questions.. thanks again xx