Basically I need to get this off my chest and there aren't many people I can talk to about it as I don't want people to think badly of my fiance.
We've been together now for six & a half yrs, we're due to be married in June coming. About this time last month, after a big night out, he was asleep on the couch, I don't know why I did this, it was stupid & wrong but I'm kind of glad I did, I looked through his text messages on his phone. I couldn't believe what I found, there were at least two women that he had been texting. He met them both through work, he's an engineer on a building site. One of the women had sent him semi naked pictures of herself, the second he had asked if she had wanted to meet up.
Unfortunately, I panicked and never took note of when the messages were sent and couldn't completely remember all the messages, I confronted him as soon as I found them and as soon as I left the room he had them deleted.
He assures me that nothing ever happened with these women & he never met up with them outside of work. But I can't help wondering if that second one had agreed to meet up, how far would it have gone!?
After a few days of not knowing what to do I decided I didn't want to throw away the past six years, also didn't want to lose his family, I love tham all dearly, as well as him.
We seem to be doing well but deep down I'm still hurting & keep thinking about it when I'm on my own.
I'm terrified that when I step into the church in June I'll still be thinking about it and I really don't want that to be the case.
Any advice? Or has anyone been through anything similar?
awh chick my heart goes out to you. i know that feeling you get in your heart, thumping out of your chest. its awful and like you i hate telling my family anything because ultimitley im afraid they'll hate him. but you really do need to tell someone, for me my grandmother is a great tower of sense and strength and always tries to be unbiased in her advice.
Men are nothing like us women, what we think of as an absolute NO NO they dont even bat an eyelid. I mean if i saw one of my friends doing the dirty on her dp in a club id be like oh no that awful, your lousy, if a man saw his friend he'd be like right il keep shunt about it!!! now dont get me wrong on both sides there is exception to the rule!!! some women can be like men and some men god love them have hearts of gold.
But anyway, you need to find out why he delted them texts, had he somethin to hide. when i foundt texts on a parnters phone he actually told me to ring them up and i did and it got sorted out . basically it was him being stupid but like i said you never know how far it would have went if it wasnt found out
Oh Magpie I'm so sorry this happened to you... I've been through something very similar too. Its absolutely heart breaking I hope your ok
So sorry to hear this is happening to you, especially so close to your wedding.
I have to agree with RDS, I think you should postpone your wedding for now and try to work thru this.
Trust is the single most important thing in a relationship and if there is any doubt there it will eat you up!
Best of luck hun whatever you decide x
Magpie26.....I'm soooo sorry for you..
That feeling in the pit of your stomach must be just awful......